How to use pocket money? Mother and son sign the agreement!

  Recently, four agreements signed by a lawyer’s mother and her 10-year-old son in Dongguan, Guangdong Province, have attracted the attention of netizens and the media. Some people think that signing the agreements is conducive to the establishment of children’s legal awareness, while others think that the agreements lack human touch. The lawyer’s mother told the Beijing Youth Daily reporter that in the past five years, children have grown a lot from passive signing to active participation in the agreement, and they are used to being the son of "Party B" in the agreement, and they are increasingly aware of the importance of rules and vouchers.

  Mother and child sign pocket money agreement to lead to controversy

  "It is confirmed by both parties that 20 yuan will be paid on the 10th of each month. The above pocket money is mainly used to buy stationery, books, interpersonal communication and snacks. Party B shall inform Party A of the use of the amount exceeding 5 yuan, and Party B promises not to buy snacks within the school. If the price rises, Party B needs to increase the amount of pocket money, and both parties can negotiate separately. " This passage comes from a Supplementary Agreement on Pocket Money signed by Lv Yuanxia, a partner lawyer of a law firm in Dongguan, Guangdong Province, and her son Wang on October 10th this year.

  The reporter of Beiqing Daily saw that the column of Party A in this Supplementary Agreement for Pocket Money reads "Xiao Min’s Mom" and the column of Party B reads "Xiao Min". There are seven clauses in total, which stipulate the use and amount of pocket money, the conditions for Party B to get pocket money, the conditions for Party B to get extra pocket money and the settlement of disputes. The last item is a special reminder, which reads "Party B expresses that it is very happy to recognize the above system and is willing to abide by and implement it".

  Regular French describes only the pocket money agreement in 20 yuan. This agreement, which reveals "contrast" everywhere, quickly triggered a hot discussion among netizens once it was reported by the media. Many netizens said that this kind of education method is very novel and is conducive to the cultivation of children’s legal awareness and sense of rules. Some netizens also questioned that it was somewhat impersonal to imprison a child’s childhood in a cold agreement.

  Lv Yuanxia told the reporter of Beiqing Daily that this Supplementary Agreement on Pocket Money was signed by his son Wang on his own initiative, and this agreement is not the first agreement between mother and son. "From the age of five to ten, from kindergarten to primary school, we have signed four agreements."

  Four mother-child agreements spanning five years

  "When I signed the first agreement with Wang, it was five years ago. He was only five years old and still in kindergarten." Lv Yuanxia can’t remember how many agreements she signed at work, but she remembers the time and content of each agreement between her and her son Wang.

  The birth of the first agreement came from the flash of light of Lv Yuanxia. "At that time, Wang was very naughty. He was playful, didn’t like to pack things, and loved watching cartoons. Adults said that he didn’t have much effect." Lv Yuanxia recalled that Wang loved watching two cartoons, Dora the Explorer and Bears. "I just wanted to watch cartoons as a reward, talk to him about some conditions and establish his sense of rules."

  In the agreement treasured by Lv Yuanxia, the reporter of Beiqing Daily saw that this is a relatively "simple" agreement with only five clauses. In the agreement, Party B (Wang) is required to finish his homework according to the regulations, fold his clothes after taking a shower, and abide by the rules and regulations in the kindergarten, and the "generous welfare" is to watch Dora the Explorer and Bears on Saturdays. At the end of the agreement, it reads, "The above agreement is based on Party B’s temporary illiteracy, but after Party A reads it aloud and repeatedly informs Party B, it shows that Party B has known the above contents agreed by both parties". At the end of the agreement, both mother and son signed their names and pressed their red fingerprints.

  In September 2015, Wang went to primary school from kindergarten. With the task of studying, Lv Yuanxia pondered to sign a second agreement with her son. The second agreement is a reward and punishment system. In the system, if Wang "takes the initiative to read and study at night" and "gets praise at school", he will be rewarded with different numbers of "stars"; If you violate the rules, you will be deducted "stars". After reaching 100 stars every week, you can "satisfy a wish or get a mysterious gift".

  The third agreement is the original version of the Supplementary Agreement for Pocket Money at the beginning. "We hold family discussions every week. At the end of 2016, Wang said at the meeting that he saw that his classmates had pocket money and wanted to have it, so I drafted an" Allowance Agreement ",and the amount at that time was set at 20 yuan every month."

  Lv Yuanxia said that the fourth Supplementary Agreement on Pocket Money was the first time that my son volunteered to sign a new agreement. Although the monthly standard in 20 yuan was maintained in the agreement, the conditions for getting pocket money and getting extra pocket money were increased. "He began to feel that he didn’t have enough money to spend, so he asked to update the agreement. We signed the fourth agreement after deliberation. "

  The agreement witnessed the change of the son.

  "When signing the first agreement, he didn’t know what the agreement was. He only knew that he would get benefits if he signed it, so he signed it and pressed his handprint, and he was very happy to cooperate." Lv Yuanxia recalled the scene when Wang signed the first agreement.

  In contrast, nowadays Wang has been able to ask for the renewal of the agreement, discuss the terms of the agreement with his parents, and identify the "tricks" played by his mother on the signing time of the agreement. "He was a little dissatisfied with this agreement, and felt that there were no terms binding on adults. For example, he suggested that if I didn’t go home before 9 pm, I would have to pay a fine from 5 yuan." Lv Yuanxia laughed.

  In Lv Yuanxia’s view, "Party B" Wang is increasingly aware of the importance of rules and vouchers. She said that Wang always keeps a receipt for everything he eats. He thinks that if food poisoning happens, the receipt can be used as evidence. "Once a classmate borrowed 10 yuan from him, so he found a small note and wrote a simple ‘ IOU ’ Ask both parties to sign. " However, this "IOU" was finally lost by Wang. "I later asked him if he had paid back the money. He said that the note was lost and there was no voucher to ask for money."

  Text/reporter Li Tao Intern Li Zhuoya

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  Lawyer’s mother: agreement can help children build a sense of rules.

  Recently, four agreements signed by Lv Yuanxia, a lawyer’s mother in Dongguan, Guangdong Province, and Wang, a 10-year-old son, have caused controversy among netizens. While some netizens praised it, there were also voices that questioned that signing an agreement with children was too "cold". A few days ago, lawyer mother Lv Yuanxia accepted an interview with a reporter from Beiqing Daily. She said that the agreement can help her son establish a sense of rules and let him know that life can’t be arbitrary.

  Beiqing Daily: Why did you think of signing an agreement with your son?

  Lv Yuanxia: The signing of the first agreement is really an interesting experiment, and there are many very casual and happy expressions in the content of the agreement. After signing the agreement, I turned to think that this method is actually quite good. Because I have been a lawyer for so many years, I have also come into contact with many cases of juvenile delinquency, most of which are caused by weak legal awareness. Therefore, I think it’s a good way to establish the awareness of rules for Wang through these agreements.

  Beiqing Daily: Is there a time when Wang is unwilling to abide by the agreement?

  Lv Yuanxia: When he first signed the first agreement, he was still young, and he couldn’t understand the meaning of the agreement. He often cheated and didn’t abide by it. We usually wait for him to reason with him when he is finished, and slowly accept it. Now our agreement also has the right to raise objections. If there is any dispute, the elder, that is, his grandmother, will be invited to arbitrate.

  Beiqing Daily: What do you think is the biggest impact of the agreement on Wang?

  Lv Yuanxia: On the one hand, of course, it is the establishment of a sense of rules that let him know that life can’t be arbitrary. On the other hand, it is the shaping of the concept of money. Through rewards and pocket money, he can realize that money is not obtained out of thin air, but needs to be produced through labor and hard work. Including me, I will also ask him to help me sort out the file numbers in my law firm. For 5 yuan a copy, he can understand that it is not easy for me to make money from my work.

  Beiqing Daily: Do you think the agreement has a positive or negative impact on your mother-child relationship?

  Lv Yuanxia: My current feelings are quite positive, because in many families, parents have the final say, and children are unconditionally obedient. Even if parents are right, children will be dissatisfied with their parents in conflicts and arguments. With the agreement, Wang will think that it is not my mother who won’t let me do it, but that the agreement agreed by both of us requires it, so this dissatisfaction will not fall on the parents.

  Beiqing Daily: Some netizens questioned that it was too impersonal to sign such an agreement with children. What do you think?

  Lv Yuanxia: That’s because now everyone only sees the agreement signed between Wang and me, but not our real life. In fact, these agreements only account for a small part of our lives and are a little fun. In our daily life, we don’t have to sign an agreement for everything, nor do we follow the agreement completely.

[CCTV Review] The "Phase I" of the 100 billion wind power project is on display, and the "Phase II" is still under construction. Who is to blame for this strange thing?

What happened to the Three Gorges on the Road?

The ancient poem "and the wind, that has come a thousand miles, beats at the Jade Pass battlements" refers to Jiuquan, Gansu. In order to make use of these abundant power resources, the first large-scale wind power demonstration base in China was built in 2008. This project has been written into the "Eleventh Five-Year" and "Twelfth Five-Year" renewable energy planning, and many people call it "Three Gorges on the Road".

However, in 2015, nearly 40% of wind power generation equipment was restricted, making it the most severely disabled area in China. The wind power base that was built at a cost of hundreds of billions of yuan in that year can only bask in the Gobi Desert. The director of Jiuquan Energy Bureau said that Jiuquan’s entire installed capacity can generate 30 billion kWh of electricity, but now it only generates less than 17 billion kWh.

The wind power project that has stopped now is only the first phase of the overall project of Jiuquan Wind Power Base. Now, the second phase is under construction.

Gansu Jiuquan Kilowatt Wind Power Base Phase I Project

Gansu Jiuquan Kilowatt Wind Power Base Phase I Project

Who is responsible for "abandoning wind and limiting electricity"?

The phenomenon like Jiuquan in Gansu Province also exists to varying degrees in Inner Mongolia, Xinjiang, Jilin and other places with large installed capacity of wind power equipment. According to the statistics of the National Energy Administration, the direct economic losses caused by these stopped wind power equipment exceeded 16 billion yuan.

With the increasingly severe atmospheric control and the trend of replacing thermal power with clean energy, a large amount of clean energy cannot be put into normal use. What are the reasons? CCTV reporters interviewed all relevant personnel:

Staff of wind power base:The electric power department has strict power restriction instructions.

Gansu Electric Power Company:The consumption of new energy can’t be solved by Gansu or Northwest China alone. If you want to send out the extra electricity, you can only rely on long-distance inter-provincial transmission lines. But at present, there is no supporting transmission line.

State Grid:The transmission line is not without, it has been planned for a long time. It is only the slow approval of national energy that has caused this situation. As early as 2010, when Jiuquan Wind Power Base started construction for one year, the State Grid made an early warning: "There will be a serious surplus of clean energy in Gansu" if there are no external transmission lines.

National Energy AdministrationI don’t agree with the problem of lagging approval. In terms of energy management, local consumption is the best. The problem of "abandoning wind and limiting electricity" arises because the local governments are speeding up development and desperately engaged in construction, and the amount of construction exceeds the local absorptive capacity, which is a problem in planning and management.

Wu Shengxue, who is in charge of Jiuquan new energy project planning, disagrees with overcapacity. He said that when building this large wind power base, it must be integrated into the large power grid and used throughout China. It is implementing the national plan to vigorously develop clean energy, energy conservation and emission reduction, and there is no problem of excessive construction. Because the traditional energy has not retreated, the market of clean energy has been squeezed by thermal power, which has caused the present situation. This is a developing problem, which needs assistance from the national level.

"Phase I" is blocked, where is the electricity for "Phase II"?

Not long ago, the National Energy Administration announced that during the Thirteenth Five-Year Plan period, the windmill would be stopped, and various places, including new energy enterprises, also made suggestions and thought of solutions to the problems. Things seem to have a good result here, but in fact, the windmill has not really ended. Now, the second phase of Gansu Jiuquan Wind Power Base is under construction.

Different from the first phase, in order not to let these wind power have nowhere to go, Jiuquan plans to send these new energy sources to Hunan through the long-distance transmission lines under construction by the State Grid, and then to neighboring provinces such as Hubei and Jiangxi.

Is this power transmission plan feasible in reality? The reporter continued to visit relevant departments in Hunan, Hubei and Jiangxi:

Hunan Electric Power Company Power Trading Center:We must first ensure the water and electricity supply in this province, and we cannot sacrifice our own clean energy for the sake of clean energy in other provinces.

Hubei Provincial Development and Reform Commission Electric Power Department:It’s not that any province is short of electricity, so it’s simply a match. This kind of long-distance transmission is not as good as distributed local consumption.

New Energy Department of Jiangxi Energy Bureau:Long-distance power transmission may be very dangerous to our receiving power grid. It will be very dangerous if the power grid collapses and there is a large-scale power outage.

In fact, Hubei, Jiangxi and other places are still launching a large number of coal power generation projects. Because coal prices have fallen to the bottom, thermal power is much cheaper than wind power, so power-deficient provinces would rather build their own coal-fired power projects to solve the power shortage problem than accept foreign wind power. Behind these coal-fired power projects, there are macro considerations such as developing local economy and solving local employment.

Energy layout can’t afford "small abacus"

The national development concept is to gradually replace coal with new energy, but in practice, one side has electricity but no market, and the other side accelerates the construction of coal-fired power plants. What’s wrong with this?

Developing new energy sources and protecting the environment was originally a good thing for the country and the people. Gansu wants to take the opportunity to develop its own wind power base and attract investment; State Grid has seen the opportunity to develop interconnected power grids; In Central China, we want to continue to demand cheap coal to ensure the competitiveness of power enterprises. No one is wrong, but when put together, it’s not right.

Li Junfeng, director of the National Center for Strategic Research and International Cooperation on Climate Change, said that the problem is that our development thinking and behavior are not in step. When the energy supply is divided into administrative regions, it will cause each to solve its own problems and put the rice bowl in its own hands. Consider the interests of your own province, GDP growth, tax growth or employment.

If you want to have a national chess game of electricity consumption, you must have a national chess game of electricity management system. If you want to replace traditional energy with new energy, you must have a decision-making system with this as the first goal. Those departments that play "small abacus" should make way for the "big truth".

First of all, based on the importance of environmental governance, we can no longer simply regard energy projects as a tool to stimulate economic growth, but must plan energy development projects from a global perspective to prevent new traditional energy projects from continuing to occupy the market space of clean energy.

Secondly, the local governance mechanism should be matched with environmental governance as much as possible, and a cross-regional energy construction, utilization and distribution model should be established to solve the restriction of administrative regions on environmental governance, and the big account of environmental governance should also be calculated when calculating local economic accounts.

In fact, what we lack is not wind, wind power or new energy, but what President Xi has repeatedly emphasized: "the driving force for reform".

Today’s new year’s eve, bid farewell to the old year and welcome the new year!

today

It’s the thirtieth day of the twelfth lunar month.

A day that Chinese attaches great importance to.

New Year’s Eve

We’ll give it to you in advance

Happy New Year!

New Year’s Eve refers to the evening of the last day of the twelfth lunar month, which is connected with the first day of the first month. The word "except" in "New Year’s Eve" refers to "removing"; Evening means "alternation", and New Year’s Eve means "the end of the month is poor". People should get rid of the old and welcome the new, and get rid of the old and get a new one next year. Therefore, the activities during the period are centered on eliminating the old and welcoming the new, eliminating disasters and praying for blessings.

Chinese New Year’s Eve

What are there?

What about the traditional customs that continue to this day?

You’re still sticking to this

Is it a ceremonial taste of the year?

paste

spring

unite

Spring Festival couplets, also known as "door couplets", "couplets" and "peach symbols", are a kind of couplets, named after being posted during the Spring Festival. It depicts the background of the times and expresses good wishes with neat, dual, concise and exquisite words, which is a unique literary form in China.

On the eve of the Spring Festival every year, in the streets and alleys of Shangluo, "calligraphers" who set up stalls to write Spring Festival couplets can be seen everywhere. The Spring Festival couplets hanging on the rope are red and colorful, and some of the couplets that have not been thoroughly dried exude ink fragrance, which makes the annual flavor strong and festive.

hang

light

cage

On New Year’s Eve, every household should hang red lanterns in front of their homes and keep them bright all night during the Spring Festival. From the New Year’s Eve to the Lantern Festival, it means longevity and longevity, and incense is constantly burning.

year

night

meal

New Year’s Eve, also known as New Year’s dinner, reunion dinner, etc., especially refers to the family dinner on New Year’s Eve. Chinese’s New Year’s Eve is a family reunion dinner, which is the most important dinner for the family at the end of the year.

This is the first time in a year

The most ceremonial moment

The family arranged a large table of rich dishes.

It is the homesickness in every wanderer’s heart.

defend

year

After the New Year’s Eve dinner, there is a custom of keeping the New Year’s Eve. Keeping the old year is the custom of staying up late to welcome the new year on the last night of the old year. It is also called keeping the old year on New Year’s Eve, and its common name is "endure the new year".

The whole family got together, sat around the stove, talked about old things and new things, talked about good wishes and hoped for the new year, so they stayed up all night. The "shou" of observing the old year means nostalgia for the dying old year and hope for the coming new year.

New year’s eve

May you wash away the dust.

Put on new clothes

Say goodbye to the past.

Welcome the new year with a brand-new attitude.

New year’s eve

foremost

I wish you to go back to your family for the New Year.

Family reunion

Greet the warm year with deep affection.

Original title: "Today’s New Year’s Eve, bid farewell to the old year and welcome the new year! 》

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Looking forward to digital intelligence, the "Hundred Models War" tends to a new stage of rational generative artificial intelligence.

Inventory Prospect Generative Artificial Intelligence
editorial comment/note
Recently, the National Language Resources Monitoring and Research Center released the "Top Ten New Words" in 2023, among which "generative artificial intelligence" ranked first and was highly eye-catching. As a hot term throughout the year, generative artificial intelligence has benefited from the emergence of ChatGPT since the beginning of 2023. This has also led to the rapid development of AI algorithms, big models and big data, and many large technology companies at home and abroad have come off the AIGC track. After a whole year’s competition, AIGC has now presented the market grand occasion of various language model products and applications, and was once considered as a key variable and an important symbol to promote artificial intelligence from 1.0 to 2.0. Its development prospect in the new year is worth looking forward to.
Forward-looking of mathematical intelligence
■ China Economic Times reporter Hu Pan
2023 is destined to be a year of surging artificial intelligence technology. This year, the interactive AI application "Let a Hundred Flowers Bloom" has become a topic of repeated discussion and reporting by the public and the media. Among the "Top Ten New Words" in 2023 released by the National Language Resources Monitoring and Research Center recently, "AIGC" impressively ranks first in the list, which reveals that AIGC has brought an impact that cannot be ignored in China throughout the year, and on the other hand, it also shows that public opinion in the whole society is expecting the development trend of AIGC in the new year.
"A hundred flowers blossom", AIGC enters a new stage.
Throughout 2023, from the "Hundred Modes Battle" competition to the "Hundred Flowers Bloom" of the application layer ecology, the AIGC industry ushered in an outbreak in this year.
In the international field, the AI ​ ​ big model shows its edge and is controlling the future with technology. In this year, OpenAI officially announced the multimodal model GPT-4, adding image function (multimodal), which changed it from a conversational Demo to a super APP that can multi-line process text, images, voice, video and other information carriers. At the same time, a number of technology giants such as Google and Microsoft have launched their own AI models in order to seize market share.
At home, the "Hundred Models War" is also being staged. Baidu’s ERNIE Bot, Alibaba’s Tongyi Qianwen, 360′ s 360′ s Zhinao, Tencent’s Hunyuan, Huawei’s Pangu … This year, the domestic big model also showed a scene of hundreds of battles. According to the data, as of October, China has released 238 large models, which has tripled compared with 79 in June.
It is worth mentioning that in August this year, the Interim Measures for the Management of Generative Artificial Intelligence Services issued by seven departments, including the National Network Information Office, was officially implemented, and the entry threshold was set from the policy level. The standard system covers many industries, including model industry capabilities, model engineering performance, model computing network, and model safety and reliability. The importance of data, algorithms, models and safety factors is prominent. This also means that the "Hundred Models War" has returned to rationality, and the AIGC industry has entered the stage of integration.
"In this process, how to learn from the principles of biology and psychology, so that the AI ​ ​ system can adapt to new tasks and environments more quickly through meta-learning; How to reduce the dependence on a large number of labeled data, so that the AI system can learn knowledge through unsupervised or self-supervised; How to make AI system process and integrate information from different modes (such as images, voices, texts, etc.) and improve its understanding and application ability; How to reduce the scale and computing resource requirements of AI model in order to deploy and run on edge devices; How to prevent and respond to attacks against AI systems, such as countering samples, model theft and data poisoning, and ensuring the security and reliability of AI systems are all issues that need to be discussed urgently in the development of AIGC technology. " Shenyang, a professor at Tsinghua University School of Journalism and director of the Meta-cosmic Culture Laboratory, said bluntly when interviewed by a reporter from China Economic Times.
"It is also huge and small", and the risk points of AI development still need to be paid attention to
With the rapid updating and iteration of the AI big model, what trends will the AIGC industry show in the future and what sparks will it collide with?
In this regard, Shenyang said that the future development of large language models will present two opposite trends, namely, huge model and micro model. Among them, the giant model is full-modal, with massive parameters, that is, it draws wisdom from a wider range of knowledge, puts forward deeper opinions on problems, emphasizes the infinity and diversity of knowledge and the role of AI technology in pursuing truth and understanding the world. Micro mode is model compression and optimization, and strives to achieve approximate performance in limited resources. That is to say, while maintaining high prediction accuracy, the model size and calculation cost are greatly reduced, the calculation efficiency is optimized, and efficient model prediction is realized, which can be run on smaller equipment.
"In view of the global language and cultural differences, data security and compliance requirements, the localization of large-scale language models is just needed. Localization can improve the accuracy and practicability of the model in a specific language, culture and industry background, thus meeting the needs of more users. At the same time, there will not be only one big model in China. Every enterprise and individual will have their own GPT, which will present a pattern of multiple symbiosis. " Shenyang said.
It should also be noted that there are still some risk points worthy of our attention in the development of AIGC.
Shenyang said that AIGC is strongly involved in the global industrial chain, or it will completely replace programmers, graphic design and legal AI customer service, and set an upper limit for labor costs. The demographic dividend of third world countries no longer exists. The industrial chain of the third world will suffer a huge impact, and the low-end industrial chain will no longer be transferred. AIGC supported by large computing power may become a sharp edge to split the global industrial chain of multinational companies.
At the same time, under the influence of technology Matthew effect, useless classes will be formed predictably in a stable society. Most people’s mediocre mental work will lose its value.
In addition, the ethical risk of AI will be multiplied with the strength of AI technology, thus affecting more people.
In view of this, Shenyang suggested that the future development of AI should also introduce ethical and humanistic care, develop personalized AI that can reflect users’ diverse values and needs, design AI education that can improve people’s information literacy and critical thinking ability, and establish laws and regulations that can prevent AI abuse and protect users’ rights and interests, so as to avoid AI risks from multiple dimensions. 
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